Venus and Relationships
I had a big realisation this week that I know is going to change my energy for 2024 and it all has to do with the relationships I have with others.
I’ve been doing a mini life review. With Venus being very present in the astrological chart this week I started with my relationships.
Since I was a little girl, I never had any problems with making friends. I was like a magnet and people gravitated toward me. I was someone who encouraged inclusivity so I made friends with many groups of people. This continued into my teenage years and as a young woman. Everywhere I went I would acquire a new friend. It got to a stage where I consciously said I didn’t want any more new friends in my life. It felt so full.
I want to share a few extracts from my journaling this week.
This is how it started…
‘What are my relationships with others? - I’m keeping myself hidden. I don’t have many relationships with others outside of my husband and children. I have a handful of people I see occasionally but I don’t talk to them often and I don’t connect much.’
This took my breath away and bought tears to my eyes.
I continued to journal… ‘Relationships require energy and I find them draining! Wow. When was this a thing for me?’
I contemplated this for a while and realised two things. Becoming a business owner meant I focused time and energy in this new area of my life and in doing that I stopped being so active with my friendships, I didn’t organise to see people and I took many days to respond to text messages.
And the second thing was that becoming a coach meant that some conversations with certain people became draining. I hadn’t considered that I would have to protect my energy around them. So, I just stopped seeing them.
I found them draining.
As a 5.2 Generator by human design, I am lit up by people. I become my most vibrant self in the company of others. So why have I felt them draining?
The thing is, I had changed. My life had changed, and this meant saying goodbye to some people, especially in this case the energy drainers. It wasn’t anything to do with them and everything to do with me. There are definitely some people that are growing with me and I love to be with them, but the fear of what others do to me has meant I have kept a distance from most people.
Distancing myself from people is a very unnatural environment for me to be in. Which leads me to having another type of energy drain because I'm not surrounded by people!
This exercise led me to write a list of all the people that light me up. Who do I want to spend time with? Who do I leave feeling like my cup is full? This is what I am manifesting. These are the people I wan to attract into my life.
It’s a natural evolution to allow relationships to run their course. People come in and out of your life when they are needed. And when ready, they leave.
As you evolve and experience life, your values change and you want to be with people that align with you and your energy.
Why did I want to share this with you today? If you can see where your energy draining relationships are and make a conscious decision to move away from them, you’ll come alive so much more.
And even better, if you can see who your people are, you’ll attract them.
I am no longer hiding from all the people, I'm consciously connecting to those that light me up. And I am open to receiving new relationships with my people which is a new thing for me right now and it feels really good.
